Making this Valentine’s Day safe, supportive and allergy-aware

Valentine’s Day is a wonderful opportunity to show your partner how much you care — and if they live with serious food allergies, it’s also a chance to show that love through thoughtful preparation and understanding. With the right planning, you can celebrate together without stress, making sure safety and romance go hand in hand.

Before you decide on plans or gifts, take time to ask about your partner’s allergies, what foods or products to avoid, and how best to manage risks. This simple conversation ensures you’re both on the same page.

Choosing and preparing food

Whether you’re planning a romantic meal out or cooking at home, preparation is key:

• Dining out: Call the restaurant beforehand to discuss your partner’s allergy and how they can safely accommodate it. When you arrive, ask to speak with someone who can confirm how allergen-free options are prepared and how cross-contamination will be avoided. If your partner doesn’t feel confident with the answers, it’s OK to change plans and choose another spot. See our Eating out guide for more information.
• Cooking in: If you’re cooking together, take the time to check all ingredients and clean surfaces and utensils thoroughly to avoid cross-contamination. Consulting your partner on trusted recipes can make the evening safer and even more personal. See our Shopping and preparing food guide. If you’re ordering takeaway you may also find this guide useful.

Smart gift choices

Edible gifts can be lovely — but check every ingredient on chocolates or treats to make sure they’re safe and make sure you save packaging so your partner can check too. Alternatively, choose non-food gifts (e.g. flowers, experiences, pamper sets, or sentimental cards).

Be mindful beyond the plate

Food isn’t the only source of allergens. Be alert to products like massage oils, cosmetics, and even some condoms that may contain allergens. Always read labels and check with your partner before using new products. See our Cosmetics, personal care products and medicines factsheet.

Know what to do in an emergency

Carrying two in-date adrenaline devices is essential for someone with a history of serious allergies. As a partner, it’s incredibly important to know where the devices are kept and how to use them if needed. Practising together and reviewing their allergy action plan ahead of the day can ease nerves and help you respond calmly in a crisis. See our What to do in an emergency page for more information.

Plan for fun beyond food

Not every date needs to centre on eating. If food feels stressful, think about activities that you both enjoy — a walk in the park, a show, or a shared hobby. These moments create connection without pressure.

Above all, enjoy this special day together and remember, we have lots of evidence-based information across our website. Our dedicated Helpline is also available should you need further help and support.